Let's begin this journey together
Self-love is something I really struggle with. I very much dislike what I see when I look in the mirror. I’m constantly having negative thoughts about my body and I often express them out loud. I call myself stupid or dumb on a regular basis. Usually I say this when it comes to men and how I let them treat me badly, which is a pretty consistent pattern in my dating life (more on that in another post).
This is something I have been working on with my therapist. I didn’t feel as negative about myself as I do now until after my traumatic experience. I thought that if anyone could do something so horrible to me that I must not be worthwhile. I am learning that what happened was not my fault and I can’t change what happened but I can change myself and how I think.
“Thoughts are not facts,” that is what my therapist has taught me. The thoughts I am having about how I look and how I feel about myself are NOT facts. Below is a one pager my therapist gave me to help with my negative self-talk.
This has helped me tremendously. I even caught myself in the mirror the other day and thought to myself “You don’t look that bad.” I have also caught myself trying to express my negativity out loud and have stopped myself from doing so. I have been reading some self-help books that talk about affirmations and mantras when it comes to self-love, so I did some research and found a few of my favorite affirmations to say to myself daily.
I often find myself scrolling through Pinterest when I am feeling down about myself or just down in general for motivational quotes or best practices. I came across a few self-love challenges that I thought would be good for me to try and for you to try as well! I chose a 14 day challenge that has 14 simple tasks. You do one each day! Here is the challenge:
At the end of the 14 days, reflect on the tasks you did and how they made you feel. I will check back in on this after 14 days and share my expereince with this challenge.
Anna Forcier loves elephants, unicorns, sunshine, and rainbows!